Love, Money and Success – anomalies?

If “love is a poor man’s food,” like Ray LaMontagne so passionately sings in “Hold you in my arms” then, is lust a rich man’s delight?

What role does money play in fostering a successful relationship, and are wealthier men more apt to being philanderers than the non-financially fruitful men?

Now, this is certainly not an article intended to put men in the corner, simply explore the way wealth can affect the potential success of a relationship

In my research for this article, I asked a sample of men, the overall sentiment was the following.

Yes, more money, more problems, essentially.  Because having an abundance of money leads to financial freedom and with that freedom comes an abundance of options – ones that include meeting more and more glamorous women.

From a guy’s perspective, the more money a man has the hotter the women seem to be, since without a stable bank account, some women are off limits.   And as a guy, if a girl is there, and she’s hot, controlling that impulse to pursue her is a feat suited for a god, and could still ultimately end with a night of debauchery.  Basically, the more money a man has the more likely he is to stray.

It’s just like Patti Stanger says, if a man has never heard the word no, and had everything he could ever want, he’s not going to start being different now.

So, if you are a gorgeous single woman looking for your long-term life partner, does this mean you should steer clear of a man with a lot of financial success since the chances of him being loyal to you is slim?

No. You just have to learn how to play the game, after all, the roles could be reversed, like we are starting to see today, and you could be a Sugar Momma to a man that wants to stay home and tend to the children, but most women still would like to be taken care of, rather than being the breadwinner and the emotional rock.

So, what does this mean in terms of dating, you’ve taken the plunge put yourself back out there, and found a guy online you’d like to get to know better.  Is it because he’s cute? Because he has a witty profile? Or is it because he has a graduate degree and has a potential earning scale of at least 100k?

Ladies, it’s important to remember you’re going to get what you’re looking for. You say you want a man with success, well, he’s going to come with success in all arenas, including other women.

It also necessary to understand that a wealthier man has no financial reason to get married earlier in life, like our average counterparts. Therefore, catching, and holding onto him, requires diligence and difference.

Now, I do not mean diligence in pursuing him and studying his behaviors or his zodiac sign, rather, you being diligent in controlling yourself – your emotions, your sex-drive and your desire to be his one and only.  And difference in the sense that there must be something special and unique about you that sets you apart from the other ladies competing for his attention.

And do not be fooled into thinking you can grasp his attention, and have won the war, perhaps you’ve won the battle, and got the guy, but the other gorgeous sirens will keep you on your man-keeping toes and wage the war indefinitely.

Ultimately, nothing can fool chemistry.  Whether a man has money or not, if there connection between you and this Prince Charming, it has the same chance of working as our country’s divorce rate, 50/50.

But, if you know what you want and chemistry is on your side, money will have no bearing on your future happiness. After all, humans are not solitary creatures.