Stop Comparing Mr. New Date to Mr. Ex Date

A slippery slope for many women is comparing her new beau to her old one.  Men do not even like to talk about past relationships let alone be compared to someone else who has had a strong relationship to you, even if it was exclusively in a dating site.  Men do not want to be reminded of this.  They do not think that they are chauvinistic and territorial, but instinctively they are.  This doesn’t mean that he treats you poorly, quite the opposite actually.  He feels protective over you and just does not want to be reminded that someone else has entered his perfect garden.

Men are not attracted to comparisons and they will break up with you.  They will clearly tell you that if you think that Mr. Ex was so perfect than why don’t you go back to him.  Every man has his own way of going about his business.  You will also only disappoint yourself when you start to compare what your ex boyfriend used to do for you and what your new boyfriend does not.  You have the chance to be with someone who could change your world but you are so stuck on these comparisons that you will never give him a chance to show you how he does things.  He may even be able to do a lot of things better than your ex.

There is a reason why you are no longer seeing your ex boyfriend.  You finally have the chance to start a fresh new relationship, why ruin it with events of the past. Being anteric and letting your past problems affect your new relationship will get you nowhere. If your ex boyfriend was perfect you would not have broken up.  If he cheated on you or treated you poorly, do not automatically think or accuse your new beau of being the same as your ex.  You finally have the chance to start fixing mistakes that you have made in the past in a new relationship, so why ruin this opportunity?

Sometimes women interpret dating as being a continuous cycle, but it is not.  Every relationship is different.  You will have different experiences, you will learn different things and you will be treated differently.  Regardless of how great or terrible your past relationships have been, with Mr. New you have to throw everything away good and bad and start anew.  If you cannot, then you will be doomed to another break up because of comparing Mr. New to Mr. Ex.

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